Saturday, September 20, 2025

The PERM

 



Assignment: Write a description for a new invention—something the world cannot live without! Include specifications, materials, what the device is for and why we need it!

Answer: PERM (Personal Emotion Regulation and Monitoring device) for everyone especially people in power.

There is this scene in the movie Mission Impossible – The Final Reckoning where the President surrounded by her key advisers and Cabinet Members stands poised to trigger a nuclear bomb that will destroy millions of lives. The tension in the room is palpable with the Defense Secretary looking like he is on the verge of having a stroke.

Imagine if at that time, the Defense Secretary, the President, indeed everyone in that room, suddenly experiences a soothing sensation, one that steps them back from the adrenalin and toxicity of the immediate situation, and back into a space where they can view the problem in a different context. What action might she take under those circumstances?

Imagine that moment in the White House when the VP is berating President Zelensky for not being grateful enough, for not being respectful enough to dress up for a meeting with such important people. Imagine a little soothing sensation creeping through his system, eliminating all that piss and vinegar and him being able to look at Zelensky as another human being. Would history have taken a different turn?

Pick your favorite adrenalin loaded moment – what might you have wanted to do differently?

The PERM (Permanent Emotion Regulation and Monitoring device) has 3 main components

  1. The sensor – which tracks key body parameters such as heart rate, blood pressure, oxygen levels in the blood stream
  2.  A vial of medication to reduce heart rate and blood pressure, and increase deep breathing
  3.  A monitoring and data tracking function that
    1.  Records the number of episodes requiring intervention
    2. Monitors and requests replenishment of medication

Contained within a tiny flat chip, the PERM is inserted inside the wrist in a special permeable pouch.

Lab tests on over 500 monkeys over a 7-year period have shown that life expectancy of monkeys with a PERM increased by 30% over the ones that did not have the PERMS. These monkeys were also better respected within their peer group, and frequently more prosperous.

In field tests among college students over the same 7-year period, it was found that the students with the PERM were more popular among their peers. The group with the PERMS also saw, on average, a 27% higher pay packet than the group without the PERMs.

Researchers project that regular use of a PERM by at least 50% of leaders in the world will result in the elimination of global conflict by 2050. Work is underway on another device the GERD – which will introduce feelings of satiety when confronted with overwhelming Greed and the Desire to accumulate wealth beyond what one needs to support themselves and one future generation in luxury. 

Women Wearing White


Rewrite following an inspired comment from Nidhi P "Didn't Mother Teresa die around the same time? Mother Teresa died Sept 5, 1997 - 5 days after Princess Diana. I first thought of making Mother Teresa the 3rd Braid to this story. But after thinking about it some more, realized Sr Maria Rosa, my school principal from Apostolic Carmel was even more apt. 




London, United Kingdom : The Princess

A young woman stepped out of a quaint horse drawn carriage, engulfed in a cloud of crumpled white. And in doing so gave seed to millions of wanna-be princesses around the world. This was the complete package. Royal pomp and ceremony, tradition, stately old courtiers, soldiers on horses, a Queen, a King, several Princes and Princesses, in a church that inspired as much as it awed. 

She walked on a red carpet, a 25-foot-long swath of white taffeta flowing like a river behind her. The crinoline dress ballooned around. It had taken the collective efforts of  three coachmen to coax it and the train into the carriage. The carriage had been built more than a hundred years earlier and had been designed to accommodate the more modest outfits of the King's courtiers.

Her diamond crusted tiara winked and twinkled atop her golden hair. A family heirloom, each jewel in the tiara had an impressive story and had been handed down through generations of aristocratic ancestors. It would be returned to her father after the ceremony. 

Under the silk dress covered in lace, sequins and more than ten thousand pearls she wore several petticoats.  One of these had an eighteen karat gold horseshoe sewn into it. It was meant to bring good luck and happiness to the bride. 

Watching the spectacle from the pew,  the queen's sister wondered, "Will it be enough?"

Banaras, India: - The Widow

At the exact same moment, in Banaras, India, another woman stands on the Manikarnika ghat by the river Ganges. She too is dressed in white. 

Her scalp twinkles in theafternoon sun. As required by tradition, her once beautiful long hair has been tonsured. She stands there dressed in a plain white cotton sari, her bangles,necklaces, and earrings, nose rings, toe rings all surrendered to God. The proud red mark on her forehead has been wiped out to broadcast her widowhood.

The flames of the funeral pyre dance in the afternoon sun. She breathes in the acrid smell of burning flesh, tears roll down her face. Soon her husband's corpse will be reduced to a pile of white ash. When the ashes have cooled, they will offer them up to Mother Ganges so that her husband’s soul can achieve Moksha or eternal peace and float away like a cloud.

She does not worry about the future. She will live out the rest of her life quietly and in the shadows. Her son would now shelter and provide for her just as her husband and father had done at different stages of her life.

Her aunt weeps in the shadows and wonders, "How could she be so naive?"

Mumbai, India - The School Principal 

Sr Maria Rosa was the special guest at the Apostolic Carmel High School Reunion. The crowd cheered as even at 82, she marched to her seat on the stage wearing her uniform crisp white veil and habit. An alumnus from the class of 1974 had won the privilege of delivering the alumni address. 

This is what she said. "Over the past 12 months, thanks to social media,  I have had the opportunity to reconnect with several of my classmates from around the world, some for the first time since we left school, 35 years ago.  They are daughters, sisters, wives, mothers and homemakers. Several are successful career women There are lawyers, teachers, doctors, nurses, executive assistants, airline stewards, mathematicians, musicians, dancers, artists,  technologists, even some activists.   This school and the teachers have equipped us to handle the challenges and opportunities of our times. Those of us who went to school here in the late 60s and 70s are especially fortunate, for we had Sr Maria Rosa as our principal. Sr Maria Rosa was an innovative, fearless leader.  She encouraged us to think out of the box, adapt to the world as it changed around us and pursue our dreams, mindfully yet without the traditional shackles of societal norms. Her energy and enthusiam were infectious, cascading this modern approach to all the students in the school........" The speaker went on to list out various projects and activities and their impact on the students. 

She concluded with, "As part of my preparations for this address, I polled my classmates, I asked them if they had any special messages for you Sr. Maria Rosa. From around the world, the answer was unanimous :”Tell sister we love her. We are grateful for what she taught us. We do remember her in our prayers, but more than that, we remember her in the way we live our lives.Thank you sister for leaving such a strong and indelible mark on all of us." 

Stepping off the stage, amidst enthusiastic applause,  I thought, "Thank God, I was one of them." 




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London, United Kingdom : The Princess

A young woman stepped out of a quaint horse drawn carriage, engulfed in a cloud of crumpled white. And in doing so gave seed to millions of wanna-be princesses around the world. This was the complete package. Royal pomp and ceremony, tradition, stately old courtiers, soldiers on horses, a Queen, a King, several Princes and Princesses, in a church that inspired as much as it awed. 

She walked on a red carpet, a 25-foot-long swath of white taffeta flowing like a river behind her. The crinoline dress ballooned around. It had taken the collective efforts of  three coachmen to coax it and the train into the carriage. The carriage had been built more than a hundred years earlier and had been designed to accommodate the more modest outfits of the King's courtiers.

Her diamond crusted tiara winked and twinkled atop her golden hair. A family heirloom, each jewel in the tiara had an impressive story and had been handed down through generations of aristocratic ancestors. It would be returned to her father after the ceremony. 

Under the silk dress covered in lace, sequins and more than ten thousand pearls she wore several petticoats.  One of these had an eighteen karat gold horseshoe sewn into it. It was meant to bring good luck and happiness to the bride. 

Watching the spectacle from the pew,  the queen's sister wondered, "Will it be enough?"

Banaras, India: - The Widow

At the exact same moment, in Banaras, India, another woman stands on the Manikarnika ghat by the river Ganges. She too is dressed in white. 

Her scalp twinkles in theafternoon sun. As required by tradition, her once beautiful long hair has been tonsured. She stands there dressed in a plain white cotton sari, her bangles,necklaces, and earrings, nose rings, toe rings all surrendered to God. The proud red mark on her forehead has been wiped out to broadcast her widowhood.

The flames of the funeral pyre dance in the afternoon sun. She breathes in the acrid smell of burning flesh, tears roll down her face. Soon her husband's corpse will be reduced to a pile of white ash. When the ashes have cooled, they will offer them up to Mother Ganges so that her husband’s soul can achieve Moksha or eternal peace and float away like a cloud.

She does not worry about the future. She will live out the rest of her life quietly and in the shadows. Her son would now shelter and provide for her just as her husband and father had done at different stages of her life.

Her aunt weeps in the shadows and wonders, "How could she be so naive?"

Washington DC USA, The Lawmakers

The President is delivering the State of the Union address. He sees before him an ocean of dark blues, greys and black, with a blinding big white cloud in the middle. It is a group of women lawmakers who have chosen this occasion to make a statement.

More than a hundred years ago, a group of women had looked into the darkness of a world designed by privileged men and had chosen to fight against it. These women chose to wear white to symbolize the purity of their purpose. The Suffragettes had worked to reverse the law that denied women the right to vote. 

The lawmakers are honouring the Suffragette and committing to continue to work for a bright future for women, this time with a seat at the legislative table. In a dark world, they offer hope for a future in which women can take back agency over their bodies, minds and hearts.

I wonder, "Will this really happen in my lifetime?"

Class 1 - The Bodies

This could not be my dad. My dad was muscular and fit. The body on the ice slab was obese. It had a bullet hole through the chest. But it was wearing a shirt very much like my dad's favorite shirt. 

The official’s eyes were bloodshot and slightly crazed. He too was struggling with maintaining his composure. “”Can you help us with a description? Identification marks..?”


Three nights ago we, my mother, my sister, my cousin and I  were  watching “Kaun Banega Crorepati” - the Hindi version of Who Wants to Be a Millionaire. Dad and his colleague Andy were out at a business meeting with a delegation from the UK. They had just finished negotiating film distribution rights, and Dad was going to be dropping Andy off at the airport around midnight. 


Mid-question we heard the strident sounds of the  “Breaking News” feature,  the station switched to coverage of the horror unfolding across the city.  Bomb blasts had gone off in the past hour, at 6 different places in  Mumbai. There was also word of a gunman shooting at citizens inside the Grand Victoria Terminus. The city was under a “shoot-on-sight” curfew. 


We saw a text  from Dad on the Family group. “Andy and I are at the Oberoi. Looks like there is some disturbance here. Some mad man playing terrorist. We are walking out the back entrance. All will be well. Good thing I'm wearing my lucky ducky shirt. Love, Dad.” We tried calling him, then, but could not get through. 


Cell phone towers were malfunctioning across the city, but the television network soldiered on. We watched as firefighters tried to control blazes across the city. We watched the terrorists on CCTV footage from the Taj Palace hotel. We saw the smoke erupt as they set it on fire.  We heard about bomb blasts in a taxi cab and at the railway terminus. There was no mention of the Oberoi on TV. My mother tried to console us as much as she tried to console herself,  “No news is good news”. 


About twenty four hours later Mom received the following text from Andy. 


“Typing this from the back of a military van giving us a ride to the airport. Rakesh helped several of us escape through a side door. He is with the police at the Oberoi, he's showing them where another group is sheltering from the terrorists. I’m sure you will all be together very soon.”  


We couldn’t tell when he had sent the text because of the issue with the cell phone networks. 


When the curfew finally lifted 36 hours after the first attack, my cousin Keki and I ran the 2 kilometers to the Oberoi. We had heard reports that over 100 people had managed to get out. 


But we did not find my dad there. The terrorists were still holed up inside. We were forced to leave as a commando unit rolled in. 


It had been another 24 hours before the military commandos had totally secured the hotel. We were directed to a make-shift hospital set up in a nearby office building.


“My dad was wearing a similar shirt, but this isn’t my dad.” “How can you be so sure ? Bodies change…..”  “I’m sure”, I said, my heart soaring at the possibility that dad might still be alive. “This man is wearing a gold chain with an Om pendant on it. My dad has a platinum chain with the Zorastrian Farvahar.” 


“There isn’t anyone else wearing such a colorful shirt”, the man said. His assistant tapped his elbow, and spoke to him quietly. I followed their gaze to the body lying by itself on a table in the corner, the face covered. The blood splattered t-shirt was a St Peters class of 1977 t-shirt, exactly like the one dad sometimes wore under his lucky ducky shirt. The bullet had narrowly missed the Farvahar which dangled apologetically off to the side of his body. 

Writing - A New Phase

 I've had the good fortune to take some Writing classes this past year. The "purpose" based approach and the peer and teacher feedback has been very satisfying. At the same time, the pieces now feel a little raw. I have a greater appreciation of edits and rewrites. The unedited pieces are still my favorites despite all their flaws. I probably haven't edited the others properly! As in all forms of hand crafting - I'm still spinning wildly across the various phases of editing and rewrites from "first draft", "good enough", "Don't ruin it", "just start over". Perhaps the classes will help me find the "STOP NOW" spot, 

I took my first class "Flash Fiction. Tell a story in 750 Words or less" in the Fall of 2024.  This spring it was Potpourri Prose - examples of writing from different prompts or forms of writing. And here we are in the Fall of 2025 experimenting with Braided Essays. All under the guidance of Jane Seitel at OLLI - a master poet and writer. 

These classes have helped me re focus on writing and helped me connect with some really good writers. Their inputs and feedback have been very useful in my writing and editing journey. Jane's inputs have always been focused and insightful, encouraging me to remove the chaff from the wheat of my writing. I'm loving it all. 

Here is a collection of my class homework in various stages of polish, starting with the current class and going back to previous modules. 

Braided Essays 

We're doing these from Sept - Nov 2025. I am struggling with this form - the idea is to write in a non-linear fashion - apparently disparate pieces that interweave and come together in one beautiful braid.  There is a part of my brain that does not want to let go of the linear, logical progression of the story. But I shall become a poet yet!!!

To Be Posted: Week 1 Essay - When Life Gives You Lemons

Women Wearing White  Updated 10/28 with Nidhi P inputs

The Teacups

Partition

Out of Gas

I'd Rather Be King

Am I Home? updated 10/28 with class feedback

Potpourri Prose - Different forms of Writing 

This is from February of 2025

Barking Up The Wrong Tree - Story illustrating an Idiom

The PERM - Scientific Report

Sugar is Bad - Informercial

The Wolf Returns - Screenplay

Flash Fiction - Writing stories in under 1000 words

My first writing class with Jane Seitel of OLLI at Duke. Sept - Nov 2024

The Bodies 



Some Older Stuff

The Bougainvillea

I look forward to seeing input, feedback and reactions from friends and family, helping me hone this craft to wherever it goes. 

Sunday, September 24, 2023

Bougainvilleas Forever!

 The year was 2018, and I had decided to pull a clean sheet over my hitherto unhealthy lifestyle by proving a few things to myself. It included things like getting off the floor without taking any support, running 5 kms or come close enough to fool myself. Meeting new people and making new friendships was not on that list. But my then 89 years old mother and young niece, both of whom thrived on social connections had other ideas.

My Forever Bougainvillea


So when we moved into Windmills, aided by my niece, my mother managed to make many friends in the community. Unaware and uninhibited by any concerns of modern protocols she established friendships across the board - with young and old, leveraging her smart phone and iPad to the hilt. 

She would call up her new friends, and old, atleast once every few days, just to say hello. And to ask when they were going to come visit her. She meticulously obtained and saved everyone's phone numbers. And when she accidentally deleted most of her icons, roughly once every other week, she did not think twice about asking someone to fix it. She didn’t think twice about sharing her traditional vegetables and pickles - that there wasn’t enough to put on a plate, or that it wasn’t pretty enough to serve - none of this was relevant. To her it was about introducing the things she loved and sharing a piece of herself through it. 

Nor was she shy about asking people to share their passions. And it was on one such cheek scorching occasion that she asked her new  found friends Tony and Roma to plant her some flowers. “You have so many pretty flowers in your garden. Why don’t you help us plant some in ours.” While I’m not sure whether the “my daughter doesn’t have a clue” was actually spoken out aloud, I felt it. But that vanished a few days later when Tony showed up with a largish pot with a bougainvillea plant in it. 

Over the next few months Tony directed the gardener on potting and repotting the plant till it developed a nice thick trunk and was ready to be planted into the ground. He picked the exact spot in which to plant it, such that it got the best sun and could be seen from most places in the apartment. 

As the bougainvillea grew so did moms social life, and to my enormous surprise, so did mine. 

While Tony and Roma soon became an integral part of moms world, they also became my extended family. The Amazaans a very spirited group of women of a certain age soon became the nucleus of various activities in our community. Our home was their natural headquarters. I found myself engaging in an increasing number of community activities organising, fund raising etc. I met lots of really interesting people and developed strong friendships of my own. 

It’s been a year since we said goodbye to my mom - who sat around our dining table chatting and singing with her new friends up until the day she died. It’s been 3 years since Tony left us. But the bougainvillea, it continues to flourish and bloom. 

In a few months, I too will say goodbye to this community. 6 years is a long time.... the longest i've ever lived in a particular home since I left Mumbai. The bougainvillea may be lucky enough to continue to bloom and inspire another generation. Or it may not. But the gift of this bougainvillea, the knowledge that I can go anywhere and create a community simply by reaching out, sharing and being open to receiving, asking.... this will go with me everywhere. This bougainvillea will continue to bloom and flourish and spread joy wherever it is.

Thursday, June 22, 2017

Experimenting With Blogspot Layouts

Its been a while since I've published a blog here. And I wonder if this has become easier than it used to be. It certainly seems so... Or maybe my skills have improved. 
A seaside sculpture along the Cote d'Azur


There certainly appear to be more options, or perhaps I am simply finding them more easily and they were always there. 


So though this is a short meaningless video - its uploaded to the blog and guaranteed to load quickly. Lets preview this. 

Saturday, April 14, 2012

Jivi Bai Choksey

Jivi Bai - mother of Gordhandas Jamnadas Choksey ?? - 1926

Got this vignette of this woman from mom at the breakfast table this morning.

Bhai and Ba lived with Bhai's father Jamnadas in a 2 rooms  on the 3rd floor in Douji-No-Malo in Bhuleshwar.

She ran the household with an iron hand. After completing her designated tasks, she would walk to the bead store in Bhuleshwar, from where she would return with a man's black velvet hat, pearls and other materials. She would spend the afternoon embellishing the hat. In the late afternoon, she would bring the decorated hat back to the same store and bring back 1 rupee for her efforts.

These beautifully decorated hats would adorn the heads of the wealthy young businessmen of Bhuleshwar.

She had a very shot temper that Ba sometimes got to experience.

How many of us see a bit Jivi Ba in ourselves today ?